Divorce attorney

So I made contact with a very established attorney. I get very depressed when I think about it. I am supposed to call him for a free consult tomorrow.

I can’t keep on with this marriage as it’s been. It so unhealthy. I can’t help but to be so angry with him for doing this. Yes HIM, I totally feel he has done irreversible damage. I never would have imagined he would be like this…

I hate that he does this stuff in front of our child.

He makes me sick. I will never want him to touch me ever again. So I don’t have a choice this is over.

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Mushrooms in garden?

weird spore things…

I took this late last night, strange mushroom things popped up in one of my gardens. I have seen similar in this garden before but just thought these were particularly weird. I went out today around noon and remembered them, went to take a look and they were gone… just weird.

Saw another one similar tonight in a different garden. I will see if this one is magically gone tomorrow… now if it is.. that is just really strange and I will return to post about it lol . Nothing else’s was disturbed and these things are tiny. Don’t think any rodents would bother with them.. maybe insects.. I would think they would make anything sick😷 mushrooms are such a strange and gross fungi, some magical, some editable although I say no thank you. ALL just gross and weird. IMO.

ok now off to bed to watch a little real housewives and crash out next to my precious little angel child, he is a little angel 😇 I am so forever grateful and thankful that I get to be his momma.

Next day.. it was gone lol. I read they dry up super quick when sun hits. lol I think they are so gross!

When the victim of verbal abuse lashes back

I have been verbally assaulted and treated like shit, have had to put up with such unacceptable selfish behavior from this idiot that some how has ended up my “husband” I can’t stand him.

This asshole is so put out by everything, he has no business being a parent. I can’t stand him. Everything he says, he does or DOESN’T DO says I can’t stand.

He makes me want to escape he brings the absolute worse out of me, noway had he brought out anything good. He makes my life harder always.

I am beyond sick of his mouth, I just ripped into him the other day, I hate that I stooped to his level, but I guess I had to speak his language for him to hear me. He had acted like I was so out of line and has seemed a bit rattle by my outburst. He said ” well this isn’t going to work you can’t talk to me like this” I laughed right in his dumb looking face.

I don’t want to talk to people like that i don’t want to be angry, he is impossible for me to get along with. I hate it when he try’s to touch me in anyway.

I hate that he took the love I once had for him and stomped on, it ripped it to shreds, and set it on fire.

Our child and myself deserve better than this. I am going to have to get my shit together and get out of this relationship.

I wrote the just last night, freshly irritated, rereading it now I feel the same. If I think to much about this mess and how much stress getting out of this is going to bring, it just about gives me a panic attack. I am so blinded by anger, I can’t see anything good, I can’t hear him, I don’t want to even be in the same room with him.

Omg my husband is a total bafoon!!!

If you have even glanced at my blog, you know I am in a horrible stagnant marriage. This BAFOON has no control over his anger and he is angry 24/7/365, clearly he is unhappy as well, I can’t look at him with any but disgust do to the huge Laundry list of terrible things he has done and still does to myself and our child.

We took our child to the fair tonight, I said to him as we were pulling out to go, i want this to be good happy memory’s for the child, so no arguing no fighting nothing, just be fake if you must just make it a good night for him.

So the idiot was somewhat tolerable during the fair, it must of been killing him because on the ride home he acts like a reckless fool! He get involved in some type of road rage from a car “riding his ass” so he acts like a fool threatening to tap his breaks he is speeding he is cutting over, he could have really hurt us.

He is already known to be a horrible driver he has had two wrecks that we’re his fault in the last year. I don’t ever want to ride with him or let my child ride with him. This ” man” is so messed up in the head, I don’t see how he makes it through life. He is as dumb as a box of rocks and so damn angry, selfish, self centered, self serving. All of it, he is put out by doing anything. He is lazy as fuck, calls into work with “migraines” OFTEN, has been wrote up at his job for talking disrespectful to his manager.

I can’t stand his parents either, they had a huge part in all 4 of their kids having relationship and life problems as adults. But He is grown now and should no better. I can’t have my son think this is a good example of a human being. It’s not! I want to scream and yell this is NOT what you don’t act like!! I said that In the truck tonight, about how he was cussing and irrationally driving he could have hurt us!!! my god I can’t help but to see nothing but a asshole and I am blinded by anger. I can’t keep on like this.

It’s not that easy to just get a divorce either, I am also really worried about how my child would be affected by that, but this isn’t ok either….. I can’t stand this man. I may be some type of glutton for punishment or some twisted shit, he brings out the worst in me, I never thought it was even possible that I could dislike someone this much.

Kratom Withdrawals?

I planned to pick my FedEx up at 1030-11am today I drive a hour to the FedEx place and find out the regular FedEx guy is on vacation and my package would mostly likely come on the regular route at 430pm! I drive all the way back so I could do some work just to end up using some sick hours because I feel out of it. Just detached and weird. I am dreading the drive but knowing that my package will be there helps with that. I have a mess of s marriage and keep chasing Kratom around spending to much money on it and apparently time driving too… just need it to be 430pm!! I want to hate it in my possession and be headed back home, I know I will feel better then. Of corse I start thinking omg what if it doesn’t show or something has happened…. but it’s says on truck and delivery by 430 so I am trying not to make myself feel worse.

It’s all to real

I reached out to a well known divorce attorney over the weekend, because I felt like there is no way this marriage can work. I saw his email responding come across and it said ” divorce” in the subject, my stomach dropped. I am so damn blinded by anger at my husband there is no way he can do right; he doesn’t try to do right either, he has been so difficult and so insulting to me and the child. I now at least I feel this way often, but then I think ok if I go thru with this!? I immediately think of our child and sadness.

Why did he have to make such a mess of this relationship!!! I am not sure how to get over hating him… he isn’t doing anything to help me move forward. Maybe divorce is real, maybe we just are no meant to be together, I so badly wanted to provide a together home for My little one. But this environment has not been healthy to say the least, life just gets to real. I feel detached today, I feel down but still up at the same time. I am also out of my kratom, the FedEx guy is running late, I made hour trip to the FedEx place just to find I will have to drive back again at 430 to get my package. Which I will do, I can’t feel like this all night. I took the afternoon off from work ” sick” just not myself today, that email triggers something in me, and the delay of my FedEx, I feel like , can I make this marriage work? Is it even possible? at this point. This last weekend I felt like I couldn’t take anymore, he sleeps all day blows off plans with the child leaves the home MIA all night and next day!!!! This is a whole new low for him and if this stuff is what’s going to start happening on top of what we already have then there is no way. I know I can’t make him change or make him do anything. I so wish he cared more. Really need it to be 430pm.

Divorce here I come.

The time is here. Dread of breaking the news to my family and friends but I know it won’t be a surprise to anyone that had gotten a glimpse of the nightmare my husband has become. He has been gone from this house going on a full day now, he has been in his own little selfish world and absent for much much longer. The child is 4 and asking questions. I can’t relate to his dads behavior because I wouldn’t be able to stay away from my child like he is. I want to protect my child from all of this. He deserves a happy home and a attentive mom AND dad. I picture life with out the husband in it, and a calm spreads over me. He didn’t come home last night and I slept like a baby. I know this is right. It’s a shame none the less, everything I read talks about the child suffering… I think I am exposing him to some really twisted shit keeping him in this living situation how it had been!

I have the husband blocked in my phone so I have know idea if he is coming or going and I hope it’s going. I will tell My child something…. I am going to have to work on releasing all this anger and almost a feeling of pure hate toward The soon to be X husband. I think I can let this go once this relationship is out to rest.

Of course there are little flashes of when we move on, no one will be playing house with my child. I just won’t let it happen. I don’t think I will have this issue as he can’t take care of the child alone there for I will have 100% full custody of my baby. I don’t trust him either… way to unpredictable and selfish, neglectful…. drug issues, irrational, verbally abusive, failed rehab , you name it he has drug me and overall this family threw it. I have great Male figures I hope to almost replace his dad with as far as good examples. I know I can’t replace him loving his dad, but if he is going to abandon him and neglect him, I have to protect him. Best senerio would be he leaves peaceful and proves he can be trusted. I would prefer supervised at this point, then we will see… I don’t have much faith he will work at it or be put out. I also have zero interest in being in a relationship. I am so over it. I will rejoice the day I am not his wife, I get physically ill at the thought of him touching me. He has done and said to much for to long, all I see is a monster and I hate how he picks and pokes at me and literally will grope me… I hate him.

I will seriously have a party when this nightmare is over. Knowing him he will be malicious and nasty. I guess I will have to deal with it. This has been going on way to long. He is miserable I am miserable, honestly all I ever wanted was is to get along and enjoy family time. I asked for his time repeatedly. He always would choose his ” alone time” I have gone to bed alone and usually upset every night since we have been married maybe even before, it all happened to fast. I was three months pregnant at our wedding. I really thought he was the one. I didn’t know what I was in store for. If I had, the marriage would have never happened. Now having my child was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I just wish we had not gotten married.

So I needed his time. I wanted family time and for it to be a happy experience. He is not capable of doing this at least not willingly. He let us down in so many ways, I want to move past this. I want to be content. I need him to grow up even if for a few days that we can reasonably decide on a fair split and schedule. Because he is not doing anything for the child at this point. I can’t help but to feel hate towards him.. I will leave him blocked. If he cares to see Chase he will find a way. From what I have seen he will be happy not being here and being a husband and father. It breaks my heart for my child. I know there is better days ahead. I think this is the big jump we have been prolonging. I just want it to be over and done. I hate going through to it. I am so numb to his behavior I just want it away!